Dear Readers,
I realize that, being Asexual, as well as its definition from both science and biology, has really fucked with peoples minds. I decided that in tonight's post, I am going to answer a few questions that get asked when people find out that I do not actually swing for anything. So without further a due, let us begin.
Number One: Whoa! Doesn't that mean you can reproduce with yourself!?!
My usual answer: Yes, I can do that, in fact there is a youtube video and here is the link if you want to watch.
Real Answer: NO! I can't reproduce with myself. That sounds very painful, not to mention strange and alien like. Being asexual means that I do not have a sex drive. The "A" actually stands for "Against" so the definition is actually "Against Sex". Meaning I do not have sex.
Number Two: Do you think that you may just need a good lay?
My Answer: Oh yeah? Well if you are so confident maybe you should come back to my house and we can try and see how it goes.
Real Answer: I tried folks. With both genders. I didn't feel a thing and i stopped my partner partway through cause there was nothing for me. So trust me, I don't need a good lay.
Number Three: Well maybe you haven't met the right person?
My Answer: I thought I did.
Real Answer: Being asexual means I don't have a sex drive, but that doesn't mean I cant feel emotions. I was engaged for 8 months with a guy I was deeply in love with, and I didn't have sex with him. He dumped me when he realized that, but I did think I met the right person. So I'm kinda biased to this question.
Number Four: When did you decide to be asexual?
My Answer: Last week, spur of the moment thing.
Real Answer: I did not choose to be asexual. Its just who I am. I can not help it so I have accepted it.
Number Five: Well you might grow out of it right?
My Answer: What am I? Psychic? (or) I'm just biding my time before I spring.
Real Answer: Maybe, I don't know.
Number Six: Do ya wanna get your hormones checked? I can drive you there.
My Answer: ... ... ... NO! But your driving sucks anyway.
Real Answer: Why would I want to?
Number Seven: Does that mean you can't have children?
My Answers: They are too messy anyway. Yet its not like my organs have failed.
Real Answer: I would love to have kids someday. But the thought of having sex is so... ugh, that I think I might just stick to adoption
Number Eight: Does your mother know about this!?
My Answer: She should after all the hints I have dropped,.
Real Answer: Yes, and I think she is still doesn't really understand it.
Number Nine: What do you think caused your asexuality?
My Answer: You.
Real Answer: I am not sure. When I figure it out you will be the first to know.
Number Ten: Should I feel sorry for you?
My Answer: No.
Real Answer: No.
So there you have it. The top ten questions I usually get asked when I come out to the people I know. Or people who ask. The questions sound silly to me, and kind of stupid. But when I think about it, being asexual is being in the 1% of the people in the world. So I should probably figure out that people would react funny to some information like that. After all, Asexuality isn't just for Amoebas anymore!
Sincerly,
Sarah
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