Fantasy VS. Reality? Who is the true winner here?

Dear Readers,
I ended up having a most enlightening conversation with my ex-fiance today. He seems to have become rather close-minded about the world as a whole. He insists that I am not asexual and that he is enjoying his perfect little fantasy world so much more then the world around him, and that half the world is fucked up because we made it that way.
Have we really?
Another individual said if we take Religion and hatred out of the equation then there would not be conflict.
But is that really the answer?
Now im not one to judge people, mostly seeing as how i dont like to be judged either, but there are some people in this world that i feel need a reality check. From what i can tell, people need to keep thier minds open nowadays. The world is changing really fast, and people nowadays need to hold on and be open to that change, or else they may get swept away by the tides of change and be stuck in the past. Yes there is alot of things in this world that, if taken out, could make the world better or worse. But isnt there always something new that can come along and take its place? Can we really say that by taking something out, we solve that problem?
Now i cant tell you the right answer, though goodness knows i can tell you what i think, but i do just want to put something out from my point of view and hope that you people will at least think about it.
I think that we need to be open to the changes of today. We need to think things through and make decisions based upon our own morals and try to do what is right in this world. Yes people are the reason the world is bad, but we are also what makes the world good. There is two sides to every coin, and this world is based on which side that coin lands on in the coin toss of reality.
-Sarah